R for Respect
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In her
book, For Women Only, Shaunti Feldhahn writes, “While it may be totally
foreign to most of us, the male need for respect and affirmation—especially
from his woman—is so hard wired and so critical that most men would rather feel
unloved than disrespected or inadequate.” The survey indicated that if they had
to choose one of the following two situations, 74 percent of men would rather
be alone and unloved than feel inadequate and be disrespected. Only 26 percent
chose the other way around.”
I believe
everybody desires to be respected especially from those they have a
relationship with. As parents, it’s what
we all want with our kids; as coaches, we want it with our players; as teachers
we hope for it with our students; as employers we desire it with our staff and
as people, we want it from our friends and even our spouses.
R-Respect
Respect
communicates that we give a person position of high value and worth in our
lives. It signals affirmation and shows how much we believe in them. People are
willing to reach their highest potential when they feel respected. They are
willing to take extra risks and go farther in life simply because deep down
they know that there is someone who respects them for who they are.
Giving
respect benefits not only the individual but also the relationship. Respect in
a relationship is what will build loyalty in the long run.
You have
heard the old adage, “Respect is earned.” While that holds true, it’s also true
that respect should be given. Many people struggle to get along and give
respect with those who are in higher authority because of corrupt character and
therefore blame the system. Sadly, this is what is happening in our political
realm today. Many have lost respect for our political system.
But when
we learn to give respect to their position irrespective of character, it helps
us to appreciate the system and thereby work through.
Take Away Principle: Giving respect to someone
communicates our belief in them thereby enabling them to reach their highest
potential and therefore builds loyalty in the relationship.
Tips
on giving respect:
1.
Affirm
the person. Tell them how much you appreciate their strengths.
2.
Speak
well of the person in front of others.
3.
Listen
to them without interrupting.
4.
Even
while in conflict, speak respectfully.
14 comments
Something told me you would go for R = Respect, and that something was right !! R=right :D
ReplyDeleteTake a bow for this one, Danny. Lovely write up. You have given so much respect to 'respect' ! We need to inculcate this habit of giving respect to every single person ; giving respect is one way of acknowledging an individual's self respect too ! And it is one of the best forms of recognition that we can give. ( R for recognition:D)
R is indeed for Respect... Elder or Younger... Good or Bad... Everyone deserves respect!
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Last night, when I was traveling back home by bus, I heard this man speak to his wife with so much of disrespect. I really cringed at the way he was treating her. Spoke a lot about the relationship they must be sharing! :|
ReplyDeleteI think the interrupting one is the thing that gets me--the being listened to. It's so easy to just nod your head or pretend you're paying attention while thinking up your comeback or focusing elsewhere. True respect comes from giving your full attention to someone when asked.
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I like the balance you pointed out between earning and giving respect. The other side of that is we need to work at "getting" respect. I feel strongly about this regarding children. I have heard so many people complain that their children do not respect them -- and when I see how they treat their children, it is no surprise.
ReplyDeleteCarol @ Battered Hope
Lovely post about respect...it is something everyone deserves to enjoy. ♥
ReplyDeleteGreat topic on respect. We all should give it and receive the same. AtoZer http://www.writer-way.blogspot.com
ReplyDeleteRespect...hmmm. Hard earned, and easily lost. Yes, everyone deserves respect, but when it can no longer be given, it's time to rethink the relationship. That's actually the reason why I broke it off with my ex-boyfriend. I worked for my brother and would complain and vent to him every week about decisions my boyfriend at the time had made. My brother said one day, "It doesn't sound like you respect the guy." I realized he was correct, and I was doing a disservice to both me and my boyfriend by staying in the relationship, because I had lost my respect for him.
ReplyDeleteit matters a lot always! instead of looking down on others n ordering ppl around, if u show a little respect, they will work better :-) respect is important in every walk of life !
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Oh, I am such a firm believer of giving respect to receive it! The act of respect can change everything! Very nice post. :)
ReplyDeleteRespect is something that everybody wants to receive from others, but something that quite a few people do not give to others.
ReplyDeleteExcellent tips, particularly the 4th: Even while in conflict, speak respectfully.
These are very wise words and an interesting perspective on respect, especially coming from a man's viewpoint. New follower from the A to Z Challenge, and really glad I found your blog.
ReplyDeleteI truly believe that respect is earned and children learn by example. When we treat people with respect, most will treat you back the same way and those that don't well .. time to let them go. Nice one Danny. Enjoying your very insightful posts.
ReplyDelete“Respect is earned.” While that holds true, it’s also true that respect should be given."
ReplyDeleteThis is SO true!! There is a certain degree of respect that every human being should give to another, without expecting it to be earned.
Love this post, Danny!