P for Patience
6:29:00 PM
A little boy
once in a department store was standing at the end of an escalator. He kept
watching the railing as it went around. A salesman came and asked, “Son, are
you lost?” And he said, “No, I’m just waiting for my chewing gum to come back.”
What comes to
your mind when you hear the word, ‘wait’? Not many like to hear that word and
yet without waiting we don’t receive some of the best things in life. It took
me seven years to have a successful dental practice. It took us six long years
as a married couple to have our son.
We live today in
an instant world. We want everything now. When we don’t get something
immediately; we end up becoming angry.
P- Patience
Patience is a
key virtue when it comes to relationships. Without being patient with people,
we can end up becoming very angry.
In other words, patience is slow anger. We take a longer time to get angry with those we love, simply because we are willing to be patient with them. If we are to be successful in our relationships with people, we need to be patient. If we are to be successful in parenting with our children, we need to be patient.
The root of impatience is anger. Anger is a relationship killer. Uncontrolled anger leaves behind feelings of hurt, resentment and bitterness. I've known people who have destroyed expensive equipment (mobiles, laptops and even an electric guitar!) simply because they were angry!
Take Away Principle: Patience is slow anger. When we are willing to be patient in our relationships, it takes a longer time to get angry with them.
Tips on being patient:
1.
Be willing to wait. Remember
waiting produces the best results! The longer time you take to marinate a
chicken dish, the better it tastes.
2.
When you do get angry, follow
the 3 steps I always do:
a.
Don’t React
b.
Don’t React
c.
Don’t React
3.
Take time to reflect.
4.
Relate to people who are
patient.
10 comments
Patience !! Something that we all need, something that many of us don't have, and something that the rest of us forget that we have :) Loved the statement that Patience is slow anger. Being patient is not easy ; takes a lot of will power, but it is paying , nevertheless. And the three principles of 'not reacting' is something that I need to imbibe urgently :)
ReplyDeleteIn Gujarati we have a saying .. dheeraj na phal meetha - the fruits of patience are sweet. Hard one to practice though. I love your tip #2.
ReplyDeleteHa ha - I like your second advice... ! I could do with some more patience I think, so will adapt some of those advises:-) Love the story with the boy and the gum in the elevator:-) Great choice for P, Danny:-)
ReplyDeleteI like Max Lucado's books. When my husband was in a car accident and suffered brain damage I learned patience. It took 20 years to get back to almost normal. Like you, we waited 14 years to have our first baby. The Bible says Patience is a virtue but it also says that tribulation brings patience
ReplyDeleteCarol @ Battered Hope
Wanted to add -- I loved your post very much
DeleteThat was a fab post once again, Danny. In this fast paced world, we are usually low on patience. I read this in a cartoon strip, where the character said, 'God, give me patience. But give it to me NOW!!" :D
ReplyDeleteThankfully I am a very patient person. And you are right, the root cause is anger. I am not a very aggressive person as well. What gives me away sometimes is anxiety. We all have atleast one flaw, don't we?
ReplyDeleteLovely post!
ReplyDeleteWhen you get angry at someone for doing something wrong, slowly count upto 10 ... of the times that you yourself did something wrong!
There is no inner fire which is more dangerous than anger, there is no inner jewel which is more beautiful than patience.
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There is no inner fire which is more dangerous than anger, there is no inner jewel which is more beautiful than patience.
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