L for Love

7:49:00 PM

Author Sam Keen once wrote, You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly.”

It’s been over 2 months since our son, John was born. There has not been ever a dull moment. He keeps both of us busy and engaged. He’s even started smiling at us and making our work seem so light! I have lost count of the number of times he has pooped and peed all over me.

Recently while thinking about this it occurred to me that neither one of us has ever got angry with him. We would simply laugh it out. I realized that we don't get angry with him no matter how much the work for one very specific reason: we love him so much.


Of every quality we've seen in this A-Z challenge, love is the most important as without it every other quality will fail the test of time. It will eventually fade away.

English clergyman Thomas Manton said it well, "As when the root of a tree perisheth, the leaves keep green for a while, but within a while they wither and fall off; so love is the root and heart of all other duties, and when that decayeth other things decay with it."

Love has to be the motivator in a relationship. It is what will keep us going forward despite all the odds.

According to an article in USA Today, a Dutch psychologist investigated the differences between chess masters and grand chess masters. He found no difference in IQ, memory, or spatial reasoning. The only difference he could identify: the grandmasters simply loved chess more. He concluded that they were more passionate and committed towards the game.

I wonder what would happen to relationships if love were always its root. We would not just be masters but grandmasters.

Take Away Principle:
Love is the greatest motivator to any relationship. A relationship fails over a period of time when love is not at the root and heart of it.

Tips on making love the root:
  1. 1.      Accept the person for who they are and not for whom you want them to be.
  2. 2.      Pay attention to them giving recognition and appreciation to the things they do.
  3. 3.      Find ways to express love. Love is not a feeling but an action. Make love a verb.
  4. 4.      Love Unconditionally.

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  1. Lovely pointers there, Danny and loved your example of your love for baby John. True, love is the root and heart of everything we do. If we do everything with love, we do it great! :)

  2. Make love a verb :D That pretty much explains everything, Danny. As usual , a lovely post full of love :) Love to little John too :)

  3. Love this Love'ly post and the tips are practicable and true , we do forget some basic things, tks for the reminder n yes it is a verb isnt it :)

  4. Great post! And with a 2-month-old, I bet you're busy (if not a bit sleep deprived).

  5. Beautiful post. I heard on the radio this morning (it was a repeat radio show) where Pope Francis asked the audience to get back to loving one another (in marriage). How just a simple gesture could heal the biggest wounds. I love, love!

  6. This was a great post filled with great advice. ♥

  7. 'The grandmasters loved chess more' - ah, now we know being truly passionate really makes a difference.

  8. A love-filled post on love. And with some great tips too :) Lovely.

    Beauty Interprets, Expresses, Manifests the Eternal

  9. Congratulations on your little baby. The best way to describe love is the love for a baby. You are in a constant state of love with them and love is a state of being. Lovely post.

  10. Lovely post!
    "Accept the person for who they are and not for whom you want them to be." This tip is the most important foundation of a great relationship.

  11. Accept the person for who they are and not for whom you want them to be. - What a terrific life lesson. If we made a concentrated effort to do this, it would certainly benefit our relationships.
    Carol @ Battered Hope


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