G for Giver
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Do you remember the time someone gave
you a gift? Perhaps it was your birthday or anniversary or they just gave it to
you to thank you for something; what did it leave you feeling? There was a
feeling of joy and happiness because they remembered and cared to give
something.
Nothing
speaks louder than generosity in a relationship. Generosity
shows that we care for the person and hence we are willing to give. Giving can
involve our time, money, resources, talents and possessions.
One of the biggest reasons for failure
in a relationship is selfishness. People are often self absorbed and rarely
think of the other person. It leaves behind feelings of hurt and resentment.
G-Giver
Giving deals with selfishness, greed and
insecurity in our lives. When we learn to give, we stop looking at ourselves
and start looking at others. What I have observed from personal experience is
that selfishness attacks us before we
give and grief attacks us after. For those who are not givers, they want to
hold on to things they are supposed to give and start grieving as soon as they
give it.
Psychiatrist Dr. Karl Menninger was once asked what was to be done if a person felt a nervous breakdown coming on. To many people’s astonishment he responded by saying, “Lock up your house, go across the railway tracks, find someone in need, and do something to help that person."
What I have also found is that givers attract people to themselves. People naturally want to be around people who are willing to give. It is generally what sustains a relationship in the longer run.
Take Away Principle:
Nothing speaks louder than generosity in a relationship. It shows that we care for the person.
1. Develop a habit of giving. Always remember that what you give is what you get.
2. Don’t allow the desire for things to control you.
3. Value people over things. You can give things away and always get it back but not people.
4. Give unconditionally. Don’t give simply because you want to get something back.
24 comments
Yup! 100% with you on this one Danny - sitting here reading and nodding my way through your post.. To give unconditionally- yes! Generosity is so vital in a relationship. Well said:-)
ReplyDeleteHey Eli! Glad you enjoyed this one! Thanks so much for the compliment!
DeleteFab tips once again, Danny! I believe that what goes around, comes around. It is all about keeping our karma positive. And when we generously give, share, help, it all comes back to us in the form of inner peace, happiness, satisfaction, great relationships...
ReplyDeleteTruly what goes around does come around! Thanks so much Shilpa and even for what you commented.... it's so true!
DeleteBeautiful post, Danny. I'm a giver! I love giving gifts, small or big..for an occasion or out of the blue :) Thanks for sharing :)
ReplyDeleteWow! Then truly you're a person who must be surrounded by people!
DeleteLovely tips and a great post! Giving makes a person feel so happy and alive! ♥
ReplyDeleteThank you so much Kathy! Truly larger than life!
DeleteI think I get more excited about giving than receiving as receiving ha always been difficult. Drives my kids nuts! we run our business the same way -- what can we give or do to make our customer happy? I love to think of unique gifts to give and how the recipient will respond -- that is more fun than anything!
ReplyDeleteGreat post and ideas. Carol at http://batteredhope.blogspot.ca/2014/04/g-is-for-galloping-down-highway.html#.U0RjiCiPNW8
Wow Carol! To be a giver is one thing but to model it out in front of your kids so that they learn it is amazing!! That's such a valuable lesson for me... thank you!
DeleteUseful and awesome tips!!!! :) :)
ReplyDelete~S(t)ri
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Thank you so much Srilakshmi!! :-)
DeleteGreat post Danny.......keep going
ReplyDeleteThank you so much memi!
DeleteGreat tips once again! Generosity is so imp in any relationship! I am a happy giver :)
ReplyDeleteThanks so much Aditi... guess this comes naturally to those who have always been giving :-)
DeleteMissed thid yesterday. This is such a simple yet powerful post, Danny. Because, to give, we must now what we have, we must realise how blessed we are to be able to give. And as u rightly said, it has to come from within, without any expectations of returns !
ReplyDeleteThank you so much Sreeja! That's right...we can give because we have and to realize that blessing is something else altogether!
DeleteNice post, and great tips! May I add:
ReplyDelete1. What matters most is the thought behind a gift. Both the giver and the receiver should remember this.
2. We should try to give what the receiver needs most, not what is convenient for us to give. Sometimes, the receiver may be more in need of our time, our attention and our concern.
Thanks PI!
DeleteAnd lovely tips from you! Esp the second one! I know many who give according to their convenience!
Giving away a gift or whatever is an ideal moment..but never expect one in return
ReplyDeleteNever expect! Well said BK!
DeleteAfter giving a gift forget about it. Don't expect anything in return. Very sane advice.
ReplyDeleteThank you USha!
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