Bob the Builder is a popular British children's animated television show. In each episode, Bob and his group
help with renovations, construction, and repairs and with other projects as
needed. The show emphasizes conflict resolution, co-operation, socialization and various learning skills.
Bob's catchphrase is "Can
we fix it?” to which the other characters respond with "Yes we can!" This phrase is also the title of the
show's themesong, which was a
million-selling number one hit in the UK. (Taken
from Wikipedia)
B-Builder
I believe we need to approach
relationships the same way as Bob and his friends approach their projects. No
one person is perfect and is quite often dealing with some issue or the other. They are sure to hurt and disappoint us over
a period of time thereby breaking the relationship. We need to work on
making the relationship better. And for it to get better, we need to be
builders.
A
builder always looks at the basic materials they have and focuses on how to
make it better. They don’t get disappointed at what they get because they know
that the end result will pay dividends. Hence they are willing to invest their
time, energy, money and efforts into it.
If we go in with a builder perspective into
relationships, the chances of us getting disappointed with people can be
reduced greatly.
If there is one people principle I know that
has helped me deal with people is that: People
change. And if we are willing to build that person up to reach their full
potential, then the relationship can go further deeper.
Take Away Principle:Every relationship needs a builder who can help the other in reaching to their full potential. A relationship can be long lasting when both are builders.
Tips on being a builder:
1. Choose to be the builder.
2. Be willing to be patient. People change but change
requires time.
3. Always look for the strengths (things that they do well)
in the person and make sure to let them know.
4. Help them to build on their strengths by providing
resources, encouraging them etc.
5. Be willing to spend time with them with minimal
distractions (Switch off mobile, TV etc.)
