L for Love
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Author Sam Keen once wrote, “You come to love
not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person
perfectly.”
It’s been over 2
months since our son, John was born. There has not been ever a dull moment. He
keeps both of us busy and engaged. He’s even started smiling at us and making
our work seem so light! I have lost count of the number of times he has
pooped and peed all over me.
Recently while thinking about this it occurred to me that neither one of us has ever
got angry with him. We would simply laugh it out. I realized that we don't get
angry with him no matter how much the work for one very specific reason: we love him so much.
L-Love
Of every quality we've seen in this A-Z challenge, love is the most important as without it
every other quality will fail the test of time. It will eventually fade
away.
English
clergyman Thomas Manton said it well, "As when the root of a tree
perisheth, the leaves keep green for a while, but within a while they wither
and fall off; so love is the root and heart of all other duties, and when that
decayeth other things decay with it."
Love has to be the motivator in a relationship.
It is what will keep us going forward despite all the odds.
According to an article in USA Today, a
Dutch psychologist investigated the differences between chess masters and grand
chess masters. He found no difference in IQ, memory, or spatial reasoning. The
only difference he could identify: the grandmasters simply loved chess more.
He concluded that they were more passionate and committed towards the game.
I wonder what would happen to relationships if love
were always its root. We would not just be masters but grandmasters.
Take Away
Principle:
Love is the greatest motivator to any relationship.
A relationship fails over a period of time when love is not at the root and
heart of it.
Tips on making
love the root:
- 1. Accept the person for who they are and not for whom you want them to be.
- 2. Pay attention to them giving recognition and appreciation to the things they do.
- 3. Find ways to express love. Love is not a feeling but an action. Make love a verb.
- 4. Love Unconditionally.
11 comments
Lovely pointers there, Danny and loved your example of your love for baby John. True, love is the root and heart of everything we do. If we do everything with love, we do it great! :)
ReplyDeleteMake love a verb :D That pretty much explains everything, Danny. As usual , a lovely post full of love :) Love to little John too :)
ReplyDeleteLove this Love'ly post and the tips are practicable and true , we do forget some basic things, tks for the reminder n yes it is a verb isnt it :)
ReplyDeleteGreat post! And with a 2-month-old, I bet you're busy (if not a bit sleep deprived).
ReplyDeleteBeautiful post. I heard on the radio this morning (it was a repeat radio show) where Pope Francis asked the audience to get back to loving one another (in marriage). How just a simple gesture could heal the biggest wounds. I love, love!
ReplyDeleteThis was a great post filled with great advice. ♥
ReplyDelete'The grandmasters loved chess more' - ah, now we know being truly passionate really makes a difference.
ReplyDeleteA love-filled post on love. And with some great tips too :) Lovely.
ReplyDeleteBeauty Interprets, Expresses, Manifests the Eternal
Congratulations on your little baby. The best way to describe love is the love for a baby. You are in a constant state of love with them and love is a state of being. Lovely post.
ReplyDeleteLovely post!
ReplyDelete"Accept the person for who they are and not for whom you want them to be." This tip is the most important foundation of a great relationship.
Accept the person for who they are and not for whom you want them to be. - What a terrific life lesson. If we made a concentrated effort to do this, it would certainly benefit our relationships.
ReplyDeleteCarol @ Battered Hope