B for Builder

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Bob the Builder is a popular British children's animated television show. In each episode, Bob and his group help with renovations, construction, and repairs and with other projects as needed. The show emphasizes conflict resolution, co-operation, socialization and various learning skills. 


Bob's catchphrase is "Can we fix it?” to which the other characters respond with "Yes we can!" This phrase is also the title of the show's themesong, which was a million-selling number one hit in the UK. (Taken from Wikipedia)

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I believe we need to approach relationships the same way as Bob and his friends approach their projects. No one person is perfect and is quite often dealing with some issue or the other. They are sure to hurt and disappoint us over a period of time thereby breaking the relationship. We need to work on making the relationship better. And for it to get better, we need to be builders. 

A builder always looks at the basic materials they have and focuses on how to make it better. They don’t get disappointed at what they get because they know that the end result will pay dividends. Hence they are willing to invest their time, energy, money and efforts into it.
If we go in with a builder perspective into relationships, the chances of us getting disappointed with people can be reduced greatly.

 If there is one people principle I know that has helped me deal with people is that: People change. And if we are willing to build that person up to reach their full potential, then the relationship can go further deeper.

Take Away Principle:Every relationship needs a builder who can help the other in reaching to their full potential. A relationship can be long lasting when both are builders.     



Tips on being a builder:

1. Choose to be the builder.
2. Be willing to be patient. People change but change requires time.
3. Always look for the strengths (things that they do well) in the person and make sure to let them know.
4. Help them to build on their strengths by providing resources, encouraging them etc.
5. Be willing to spend time with them with minimal distractions (Switch off mobile, TV etc.)


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31 comments

  1. I am forever humming the title song of Bob the builder :D Oh some fun school times :D

    Richa

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  2. Ha ha ha - Me too! Thanks soooo much for reminding me of the Bob the builder song. (NOT:-) ) Great intro for a great post:-) So true - work on it, and we can fix it... Have some problems with you last tips - as I am having a relationship with my computer these days... maybe after April:-)

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    1. Yeah that was amazing! It's true...most of us have relationships outside people in a good way n bad! ;)Thanks for the compliment Eli!

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  3. Bob the builder is a favourite at home. Sigh, don't get to watch it that often now. I can totally relate to the part about the builder fixing things and people not being perfect. Wonderful post.

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    1. Wow! Then I've hit the nail right! Hope it continues to be the favorite! Thanks so much for the compliment Shailaja!

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  4. Another great piece! I live with a "builder." My husband believes strongly in helping to build his employees - to help them develop their skills as well as self-confidence in their own being. As a Scoutmaster of boys growing into young men, he helped build their characters - and has been thanked many times over. In our marriage, his building skills have been instrumental in construct a marriage to stand the storms of life for almost 40 years. God bless you.

    Livin' Out Loud 4 Jesus at www.merriehansen.com

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    1. Wow, MErrie! It must be such a blessing to live with a builder! I know! (My wife is one!) And that's quite a ride...40 years! Wow! I really got to learn more from you! THanks for the compliment Merrie...you made my day!

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  5. A lovely lesson to be learned here through you insightful words. And inspirational..because "Can we do it? Yes we can!"

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    1. Yes, we can Kathy! Well said and thank you!!

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  6. I love your theme of building and maintaining relationships...let the positivism spread in the air...Happy blogging!

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  7. Bob the builder was the favorite with both my kids. And I like your pointers about being a builder. I also believe that building is a mutual process in which both the people benefit.

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    1. That's nice Rachna! I guess this post would've brought memories... if both the people were builders then any relationship would go far n deep! Thanks for the compliment!

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  8. Oh Bob the builder! i always sing it when no one's watching. yes, constructive energy or building as you call it is really a rare thing....positivism is something we all need

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    1. Thanks Rajrupa! you should try singing perhaps when everyone's around! and yes, wish everyone would take initiative to build up!

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  9. Bob the builder was the favourite of my daughter, I always found her watching and singing the song, i too admired, liked the way you brought some valuable insights !

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    1. Am guessing a lot of us actually relate to Bob the show :-)... glad it bought some memories Angela... thank you so much for the compliment :-)

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  10. My kids were a bit older when Bob the Builder first appeared on my TV set. So I didn't get to watch it. But, I heard all about it from my nieces and nephews.

    Your post today, is a great one. Relationship building is so important. It takes work and I think sometimes people forget that.

    Carrie~Anne at That Dizzy Chick

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    1. The show is actually interesting when you understand some of the principles they show...
      Thank you so much for the compliment! Yes, sometimes we overlook the importance of building it up

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  11. This is my favorite TV Show!! I am smiling ear to ear seeing this post!!!

    ~S(t)ri
    Participant|AtoZ Challenge 2014
    Smile, it makes (y)our day!

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    1. That's amazing to know it's your favorite :-)... guys we are still attracted to childish things :-)

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  12. Even the title song is so powerful. One of my cousins used to say 'bockthebildi' for Bob the Builder, when he was very young :D I still remember watching it on TV with him. I love Bob :) Period.
    A very insightful article, Danny. Loved it.
    Who's your C ?:P
    ( in the A post, my comment appears twice, that's the bane of trying to comment from the mobile at night :P )

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    1. Haha...I was laughing as I was trying to pronounce bock!
      Thanks so much for the compliment Sreeja! I still think you write great stories!
      Watch out for c!

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  13. This a great perspective for a relationship, Danny. It takes two very mature individuals to think this way.

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    1. Thank you so much Corinne! And yes, you're right, one has to be mature to think this way...my prayer is that everyone who reads this will take it up too ;)

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  14. Excellent post (as always!!) and useful tips. I would slightly modify Tips 3 and 4 to:

    3. Always look for the strengths (things that they do well) in the person and make sure to let them know. Also identify the person's weaknesses and let them know without being judgemental.
    4. Help them to build on their strengths, and overcome or reduce their weaknesses, by providing resources, encouraging them etc.

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    1. Thank you so much PI! as for point three you said it well although I would do it by giving them the positives about themselves first! And point 4 is amazing as well...Thanks for the pointers!

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  15. My husband always quirks an eyebrow when I bust out in the Bob the Builder theme song. Building (and affirmation) is good, so long as you don't go into the relationship expecting the other person to change (point #2 on the list). Are you in it for who they are, or who you want them to be?

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